Life: Let Go...??

Life: Let Go...??: “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back it is yours, or else it was never meant to be” We have all been well acqu...

Let Go...??

“If you love something, set it free. If it comes back it is yours, or else it was never meant to be”
We have all been well acquainted with this quote or several other variations of it. The validity of the statement can be judged only if we attempt something this brave in our lives. But how many of us can actually do that? Maybe people who are experienced enough or have attained enlightenment can go through with it, however, while they are the minority, it is the lesser mortals like us who are terrified at the prospect of letting go and then waiting for our lost thing to return.

Movies and books have tampered with our brains and if you, like me, harbor a fetish for all things romantic, you are in for a life of great misconception! Fundamentally all Rom-Coms follow this pattern of accidental meetings, initial denial, falling in love, a point of crisis, letting go and subsequently coming back together and living happily ever after. At the end, a teary-eyes me hopes earnestly that something equally magical befalls me and I end up with the love of my life. Well, now you must wonder that probably I am the never- been -kissed sort, perhaps even under the snare of an unrequited love for someone who is oblivious of my very existence. Though I agree I am a lost case, the Goddess of Fortune did smile on me a few years ago and with the blessings of Aphrodite I dived into the endless ocean of love. What followed is something that the films had not prepared me for. After he decided that he would hang onto the words of his dearest ‘friends’ and believe them over me, I very dramatically decided to let go. He was free to find his true love and embrace happiness, something that I could never provide him with. Despite my outward show of nonchalance, on the inside, I was a raging emotional mess. The little birdie called hope fluttered inside my chest incessantly and whispered sweetly in my ears “he will come back and he is yours”. Days turned to months and months to years. My patience began to take the best of me and then one fine day I found out that he had indeed found someone else to love. It was like a slap right across my face.

Our story could have been like any other movie. We met accidentally at a social gathering. I still remember the day we met and how I stood frozen. From the beginning I just knew he was the ONE for me, the other part of my heart that has been missing for all these years. Initially I was in denial while he pursued me endlessly and then I gave in. I was in love. All that I grew up reading and watching was finally happening to me. Then came the crisis and it continued long enough for him, to forget his vows which he had so passionately pledged to me. What could I do but set him free? Not that it was in my hands but I needed to be strong to even think about taking such a decision. When I understood that he was gone for good, I waited for the day that I would stop pretending I am okay when in reality I was far from it. I wished to know how it felt to be over him for REAL.

The truth is, all these years have gone by and I still wait for him. In my heart I still feel he belongs with me and that someday maybe he will see it too. But from what I have learnt so far is that if you set someone free, expecting them to return is a massive waste of time. If you love someone, keep fighting for your love because if you love something and you set it free, it will come back only if it is in a book or a film, in real life, you are left with an ache in your heart and a never ending sense of disappointment.